Comments on: Does a single person have to get a gift for weddings.

By: Athenas Devotee

Athenas Devotee — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

That’s what housewarming parties are for. FYI. You’re supposed to throw it.

Weddings are a celebration of a union. If you go to a celebration you can get them something, but it doesn’t have to be pricey. Example, my half sister made me a photo album. I loved it.

In other words, you don’t have to put yourself in debt. But, it is nice to show the couple that you’re happy for them and their union. Something small is perfectly suitable.

By: Purpleflower

Purpleflower — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Gift giving is optional. The person or persons being honored may feel slighted though if you do not get a gift but attend their function. It is kind of an etiquette that you shouldn’t show up empty handed but it doesn’t matter how much you spend. I got tired of that too when I used to go to multiple weddings and other events and was expected to buy that kind of stuff for people but hardly ever had the money to afford to get those things for myself.

Buy something that’s not very costly or just decline to go.

By: greenbean

greenbean — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Being single has nothing to do with it- if you’re invited, getting them a gift or not is still up to your own preference and feeling. I agree that lists are greedy and shameless; I wouldn’t dream of it myself. Get something you think is reasonable if you want to get them a gift; don’t if you don’t want to (but be prepared for awkwardness afterwards because some people are THAT materialistic- it’s like the big occasions, weddings etc, are just about presents. Yuk.) and that you think they would like and leave it at that.

By: andemunk

andemunk — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Although the invite does not say “gifts optional” this is a true statement. You are not required to buy a gift for a person when going to a wedding. The idea of inviting you means they just want you to be there with them on their big day. Now about a new dress, I don’t think that they really care that much if you have a brand new dress to go to their wedding. Re-using the one from the last wedding you went to is perfectly fine. I am currently planning my wedding and I would never in a million years require people to bring a gift if they come. I hope that this helps, and for more information on the subject check out the website in my sources.

By: Kay

Kay — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

if you don’t feel like giving them something then don’t that’s usually why there is a gift table where you can leave (or not leave) gifts on. that way you aren’t put on the spot for not having a gift.

PS - I usually don’t get people what they have on thier registry anyways- that’s too impersonal. although I did have a registry when I got married just because everyone was telling me I “had” to get one.

By: runnercaiti1

runnercaiti1 — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Nobody has to get a gift for a wedding. If you do want to get something but not something cheap, pool your money with other people and give the gift together.

By: Brad E

Brad E — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

It generally costs the wedding couple somewhere between $30 and $60 for each guest to attend. It is therefore appropriate to buy them a gift, so that you aren’t just mooching free food and booze.

By: v.ley@sbcglobal.net

v.ley@sbcglobal.net — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

You shouldn’t even have to ask this question if you have made all of your own major purchases. Gift giving is “optional” but you really should buy something, even if it is only a card. They invited YOU, not the gift. And yes, YOU should throw yourself a housewarming party, but don’t expect everyone to buy you a gift. You do not have to be married, in a relationship or part of one to be invited to these important events. Most people doing the inviting know that a majority of the guests will not be bringing a gift, so don’t feel bad. But it is the right thing to do if you can afford something worth ten dollars or more.

By: joinme4coffee

joinme4coffee — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

A wedding is a celebration and if you are close to the couple and are truly happy for them, then you should have no bad feelings about buying them a gift. Gift don’t have to be expensive either. I have looked at gift registries and used them as a guide for colors and preferences and shopped at more affordable stores.

Weddings are very expensive and yes it’s their choice to spend their money that way. Also, it’s your choice not to attend. When you bought your house, why didn’t you throw yourself a housewarming party. If you invite people over and feel them well, they will probably bring gifts.

By: susan m

susan m — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Give the gifts.

Your situation is irrelevant of what is the right thing to do.

It’s not their fault you’re single. Wear whatever you already own and use the money saved for a gift. That’s the right thing to do. You don’t buy a new outfit and then show up empty handed, that’s ridiculously self-centered and selfish.