Comments on: Does a single person have to get a gift for weddings.

By: Perse

Perse — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Um, gifts are entirely optional. You never have to give someone a gift because they got married or had a baby. Your relationship status is irrelevant. People don’t put ‘gifts optional’ on invitations because that would be assuming gifts, which is rude. If your presence is requested at an event, a gift is not expected. The exception would be showers which are a gift-giving event, but are entirely optional to attend. It is, however, good etiquette to give a small gift to your host, again, relationship status irrelevant. If you, as a single person, host a dinner party in your home, some of your guests will likely show up with a gift.

By: juliettavirgo

juliettavirgo — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

It’s not their fault you haven’t married or had a housewarming party or, heck, plenty of people have faux receptions when they know they aren’t getting married. So why are you trying to punish them for your decisions. The invites shouldn’t mention anything at all about gifts, including that they are optional because they are always optional. You don’t have to bring a gift at all really if you feel that strong about it. I hate that people make weddings all about the gifts, both on the married couples side who think of the wedding as only a means to get stuff and on the guest side. It’s not about gifts. It’s about love. But, keep in mind, the couple is giving you a gift too. You are getting typically a night of entertainment, a $20-30 meal and often alcohol on top of getting to celebrate a special day. And yet having to shell out $20-30 on a gift is just too much. I don’t know what bride would want such a selfish self centered guest.

By: Halo Mom

Halo Mom — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

When I got married, I had a cousin with five children
She came to my out of state wedding, share a room with two of her mother
She gave a card
I knew she could not afford this

You could have a party for your new house
A lot of people have house warming party
Depending on who they are, they bring gift

I think you should do what you think is right

If you can not afford this wedding, then do not go

By: MD

MD — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Let’s see if we can break this down. First, no one said that you have to go to the wedding; however, if you choose to do so, then yes it is customary to take a gift. That being said, no one said the gift has to be pricey or from their gift registry. Many people think out of the box and present the couple with other gift options. Most importantly have fun and enjoy the special day with the couple, friends and family.

By: singlemomma

singlemomma — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

My thoughts are your bitter old hag who is just pissed she isnt married. You should like open bar receptions that means u get to gift less because the couple paid less to feed and beverage the quests DUH grow up what are you 22.

edit OKSY so your under 21 maybe you didnt know the bar was gonna cahrge because thats a WOM thing not something put on and invite and since your not legal to drink know one needed to tell you. Also if you choose to live in sin that is your right just because everyone else does it the right way they benfit and get gift and you shrewed wind up with diddly squat which you should for obvious reason.

By: Butterfly Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

Butterfly Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

You could have always had a housewarming party if you wanted gifts. It’s not discriminatory. Some couples spend a lot more than a single person does on a gift and some spend a lot less. Maybe when you get married you’ll get gifts, that is if you have any friends with your attitude. Gifts are always optional, couples make registries so their guests who are generous will know what they want and so they won’t end up with numerous items of the same thing. Most are also courteous enough to pick a variety of items in different price ranges for those who can’t afford much or are too stingy to be considerate. I think it’s tacky to go to a wedding and be so self centered and stingy that you feel burdened to buy a nice gift.

Personally I wouldn’t care whether anyone bought me a gift or not, their attendance is my gift, but with an attitude like yours I wouldn’t want you there anyway because you’d just be a gloomy gus all night and ruin it for me and everyone else who understands attending a wedding is an honor and a chance to wish the happy couple a wonderful future.

By: superstar85ca

superstar85ca — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I’ve been single my whole life, and I agree, in some cases there is a double standard towards single people. We never get the bed, (lol) always the couch, and we are sometimes expected to contribute as much as couples in a lot of situations. However, I have finally let it be known that I am a single woman and can’t afford to contribute as much as couples can. When I pay for dinner, I pay for myself, when I put money in on the cab, I put my share, no more no less. When I give wedding gifts, I try to be creative and give something I would want to have for myself. This doesn’t mean expensive. This means going outside of the registry list and finding something unique, finding that gift that everyone is going to say “wow, that is so cool, never thought of that.”. I’ve given picnic baskets filled with treats, wrapped in a checkered table cloth, and it might sound boring, but people love it. Kitchen gadgets are also a hit, Backyard and Veranda is one of my favourite stores to go to for wedding gifts. It’s not about the money. Good luck~

By: Messykatt

Messykatt — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

This is more rant than question, but you’re making a lot of wrong assumptions. With the exception of showers, gifts are always optional. Why not just attend the weddings of these people and not all the other events. Also, the registry is just a guideline. You don’t HAVE to buy anything off of it.

I do agree that cash bars are tacky.

By: Stargazer

Stargazer — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

All I can think of is how selfish you are being.Me this Me that.
All those people are getting married, and no one is purchasing them gifts because they bought a house.those are call house warming parties. When you get married people will purchase gifts for your life together with your new husband.
As for being optional.you don’t have to buy anyone anything, that’s your choice.

By: truefirstedition

truefirstedition — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I was going to write a thoughtful answer to you, and then I realized you’re just here to rant. For someone who says that gift-giving occasions are tacky, you sound awfully upset that you aren’t getting any crystal or china.