my fiance an myself really don’t need the standard pots, pans, and stuff like that. i am a culinary student so all the standard kitchen appliances i already have thanks to needing them for school. and i have been buying regular home stuff over the years so we really don’t need that stuff.
so would it be inappropriate to ask for things that we would like to have. like these
http://www.wacom.com/intuos/medium.php
(i do alot of photoshop work and doing it with a mouse is impossible. http://zaraun-shyntrak.deviantart.com/art/Prince-Eltar-109437836
http://zaraun-shyntrak.deviantart.com/art/Unlimited-sky-WIP-II-112177697)
http://www.doll-zone.com/showproduct.asp.id=176 (kinda a far off dream)
basically just have all my guest band together and pay for a couple big things instead of a lot of little things that we don’t need and would end up being returned anyway.
and those are just examples we have alot of other things we would like instead of the standard. other things are just things we enjoy i think both me and my fiance would be mroe happy with time cards for our online games then pots and pans. or towels.
so would it be inappropriate to ask for things like that instead of pots and pans.
and please no nasty comments, it’s just a simple question.
i just said we would be happy with a time card for our game. that is supposed to show how easy it is to buy us something.
any my family supports my art as my grandfather is a professonal painter. note why i put the tablet up because i do alot of photoshop work
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It’s your wedding I think if you are going to ask for gifts then ask for whatever you want. If you don’t need toasters, pots and pans and candles then just ask for what you want.
i think it’s fine to ask for whatever you want. sure its not traditional, but why ask for something you’re not going to use.
No. It would not be appropriate. These gifts are to be items that you need and will treasure for a long time to come. Not something that supports a habit that is only as good as the newest game or software.
If I was one of your relatives, this answer would be very terse indeed.
I don’t think it would be completely inappropriate but I do think if this is all you ask for many many not band together and you will probably end up with a lot of gift cards and cash.which may not be all that bad.
Receive your gifts graciously and return them for the cash later and get what you want.don’t be rude might not get anymore gifts later on down the road
A registry is not required. If there is not a registry, cash is the traditional gift, and it can be used as you wish.
Expecting your guests to band together in a gift buying experience is not how you should handle this. Forget the registry, collect, bank and then spend the cash on what you want.
No, absolutely it would not be inappropriate. Some people feel funny about registries anyway- they find it rude from the get-go but those folks are a minority and usually have “issues” that extend far beyond etiquette.;)
You should have what you want and need, otherwise your guests (and later- you) will just be spending money in vein. And your loved ones know you and what is important- most likely they will really enjoy giving you something you REALLY do want and need, people like giving gifts that will be appreciated.when they love you:)
So- the best way to handle this would be to 1) if you have a planner, let her/them in on this for their professional guidance 2) whomever is handling your RSVP’s (it really should not be you- let it be a mother, maid of honor, wedding planner) should have a website dedicated to your wedding (and the gifts). This go-to person will be the one guests ask “so, where are they registered” at which point they direct them to the “Wish List” of the bride groom- which will be a page on your website.
As far as inexpensive websites, shop around- http://www.theknot.com may be helpful or even Yahoo- they offer a lot of great deals and are easy to work with.
Good luck, and Congrats.
I don’t think its inappropriate. Its your wedding and you can ask for whatever you want. My husband and I asked for cash and gift cards only, since we were moving afterwards and didn’t want to pack a bunch of things. If people don’t want to get you what you ask for they will just get you something else. So I say go for it and see what you end up getting. Congrats on getting married.
The problem I see is how you would get that information out to people. Since you would not be able to put these items on an normal registry, there is no one store that would carry all of these items. You might be better off just creating a small registry and try and spread the word you would prefer money, so you can buy these things.
Peoples opinions on this are going to vary greatly. Some people will think it is not appropriate, and have very strict ideas of what a wedding gift should be. Others will believe you should receive what you want, and what makes you happy. It is my belief that you should register for a variety of items. No one is ever required to buy you anything that you register for, however there may be someone would be more than happy to buy these items.
As an example, my sister had a board game, and a limited edition Harry Potter book on her wedding registry. And she got them. She actually received many compliments that she had “fun items” on her registry. I am sure there are some people who thought it was very silly for her to put these things on a registry, but there were also people who liked it. And people who would rather buy these things as gifts than traditional wedding items.
Go for it.