I’m totally fed up with my living situation. I need to move out of my house. I may sound like I’m whining, but I know that I need to get out to be the person that I need to be. Please read below before you answer:
I think my dad has some mental thing about owning stuff. He has some property out in the country, a big old opera house that’s full of stuff, and our house which is really old and under construction (as are all of the properties) he has 14 cars, none of which work. Some are antique, some are just pieces of junk. My parents have owned the opera house for 15 years and it’s still just full of stuff and not fixed up. My mom is really upset about all of this stuff too, I know that, but my dad refuses to do anything. But here’s the worst part:
our house. We don’t have hot water. We don’t have a shower or a bathtub. We haven’t had these for 2 years. I take showers at my aunts house every other day. We have one toilet, there’s a hole in the wall of my bedroom that goes into the upstairs bathroom which doesn’t have plaster or a floor. That’s not even all of the bad things about my house.
So, my dad has 5 antique motorcycles in pieces and piles of theater equipment laying around in the opera house. I mean, its CHOCK FULL.
My dad is really immature. He leaves his tools all over. he says he “puts them away” he makes little piles of nails on the kitchen counter and leaves them for 4 weeks, getting angry if you touch them. He makes piles of paint and tools in the corner. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stubbed my toes. I try to clean up after him, and he yells at me so badly. I recently rearranged my room after I bought myself a vanity. I had this dresser (that had been stored in the opera house for 7 years) my dad got out for me. 1 drawer didn’t work, all the other ones stuck and I wasn’t even using it, it was taking up space in my room, so I moved it and told my mom I didn’t need it anymore. She said she wanted it in her room so I put it in there, and my dad got so mad and yelled at me. I can’t live at a friend’s house, I can maybe live at my grandma’s house. but how do I make the move.
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Maybe speak to your Grandma first and see if she would be willing to have you. If so speak to your mum and say that with all the mess and upheaval you can’t concentrate to study (if you are still at school) or that you feel you cannot bring anyone round to your house so that is is affecting your friendships.
Maybe the realization that things are so bad you want to leave will shock your dad into reassessing his ways. I think it sounds like he might have a few issues so if possible get your mum to encourage him to speak to someone about his behaviour and remember that for him to do this he is most likely in some sort of inner distress and needs your love and support in order to move on in life from all this hoarding.
Perhaps google the condition: compulsive hoarding.
Your dad is a hoarder, and appearing to suffer from attention deficit disorder. The two have created caos, causing him to have accumulated many things and not being able to finish any projects. Your mother is condoning the behavior by allowing this continue.
As for you I am glad that you see that this has nothing to do with you personally.You need to talk with your grandma, and go where you will be happy and make the best grades. You will be much more relaxed out of this environment. Your grandma will have to talk with your parents, and do what is best for you.
Only when your dad is ready to get help will he change. Having so much going on can be financially draining, as these properties are costing him more in the long run and not letting him have the essentials such as hot water.
Take care of yourself and if it comes down to it you may need to talk to a counselor. Homes without hot water that have children in them can be charged with neglect. I wish the best for you and remember that your dad is not doing this intentionally. It is a true mental condition.