Comments on: I need some husband insight AND help at 35 weeks preggo.

By: MeL

MeL — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Hey you are not alone:)
don’t worry I am 27 weeks along and i didn’t do no house work for 2days and oh my god the state of my house. I am sick of it too

Men they don’t understand dont even bother telling him your pregnant you cant keep up because i dont think they understand at ALLLLLLL

~MeL~

By: Silverbyheart

Silverbyheart — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

This is common among husbands. They think that if they bring in the money that they don’t have to do shit around the house. Talk to him about it, but keep in mind that talking to him about it may not change anything. For some reason they were brought up to think that it’s the woman’s job to keep the house clean and take care of the babies. I’m dealing with the same thing with my husband and even after talking to him about it he still does jack. I guess it just takes time. How do you keep the house spotless with a baby. I have a hard time doing that with my 13 month old running around thinking everything is hers.

By: this hyna <$$

Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

you need to have a serious talk with him you can’t be doing all that work especially you being pregnant. I am sorry but you need to B*tch slap your man and scream some sence into him. It’s sad how he is so irresponsible. Have a serious talk with him and tell him that this cannot continue it is completely unacceptable and you are sick of it. You are pregnant you can’t be doing that. if anything HES the one that should be doing that for you.

By: Me

Me — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I’m so sorry, I can’t even imagine how hard it must be to be sore and exhausted from pregnancy, caring for a young child, and completely running a household.
It sounds like your husband has a problem with organization in his life and that he expects you to pick up whatever slack he can’t handle on a given day. Thing is, those are inconsistent expectations, he doesn’t appear to understand your needs, and the organization of your house is only going to get more difficult when your baby second is born.
Have you tried writing up a family schedule. something to make these issues more visual. maybe then he’d see that some of his time on the weekends could be spent cleaning and that he’s using his time in the evenings very inefficiently if he’s not at all prepared for the next day.
good luck.

By: tasett21

tasett21 — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I think its a man thing. I can clean the house and my husband let me sleep in the next morning to wake up to a messy house and food thrown everywhere. Its like he gives the kids food and pays no more attention to them.

By: boy due october 08

boy due october 08 — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

well that sounds like men full stop, im expecting my third and wen my boyfriend gets home from work im just putting kids to bed , then having to clean the house and make his tea then most the time he either goes out or as his mates round, so we dont even get to for ourselfs, god knows how i got pregnant,lol

By: shalinique

shalinique — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

That sucks that you have to live like that. And wow.he had the nerve to tell you that since HE works hard, YOU should, too.
WTF. Why don’t HE try being pregnant and do all the stuff YOU are doing.

It sounds to me that he really doesn’t care about your well-being.just his own.

Being married means looking out for one another and trying to make life easier for the other, as well as CARING.

I’m sure you’ve already tried talking to him before. He hasn’t gotten the clue yet. The only way to open his eyes is to send him packing. I know it’s tough since you are so far along in your pregnancy AND you have a daughter who is almost 2. But he needs to open his eyes. He has no idea how hard you have it.

I’ve been in your situation before, and I didn’t send my hubby packing, but he got the clue once I told him I wanted to leave.

Good luck with whatever you do.